"For God So Loved"

"Are you willing to believe that love is the strongest thing in the world ... stronger than hate, stronger than evil, stronger than death ... and that the blessed life which began in Bethlehem 2000 years ago is the image and brightness of the Eternal Love?

"Then, you can keep Christmas! And, if you keep it for a day, why not always? But you can never keep it alone."

— Henry VanDyke

What does that thought mean to you, my colleague, as you prepare for Christmas Sunday? I hope you will approach this magnificent day in remembrance of the greatest gift of all — the gift of love ... God's love.

John would write, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are" (1 Jn. 3:1).

I would often say to my congregations at the beginning of a worship service, "God loves you today as though you were the only one in all the world to love, and that makes you very special." I really do believe that. I don't understand it, but that becomes the mystery of the Virgin Birth.

"God is love!" (Jn. 4:16) How do we respond to that love? There is really no way to repay it, but there is a way to reflect it: To love your God with all your heart and to love His children — your brothers and sisters.

God's love never fails!! May His love be real to you this Sunday. Merry Christmas!

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Answering the Critics: Be Careful How You Do It

Sometimes I feel like I am back in the pastorate again, where your every move and decision is up for critical analysis and debate. This past week has often been like that for me. It may have been for you, too.

My week brought back memories of a time many years ago when we had decided as church leadership to begin a school. To be open with our congregation, I held a meeting to discuss the pro's and con's of the new endeavor. Before that meeting was over, you would have thought we were a terrorist threat to our city, state and nation. How dare we even consider a school!!

Well, we took a step back and let emotions cool a bit, and then we moved forward with the school — and it is flourishing and creditable more than 20 years later. I still shake my head when I think of that situation.

I firmly believe that the church really needs to wake up and realize that our effectiveness and creditability comes from "the church being the church" and not a finely tuned image campaign that creates a mirage. In many ways, the church is a mile wide and an inch deep. There are going to be lots of folks who have been so deluded by our "feel good" approach to the gospel that they are going to miss the "born-again" experience.

I will continue to be nice and respectful of my critics (I have learned a lot from James Dobson), but I will not allow the "watchdog" mentality to stifle a message that I believe is from the Lord. I encourage you to do the same.

I often agonize for you and the "power players" you must deal with on a weekly basis, but you cannot allow yourself to be emasculated or let the message God has placed in your heart be weakened, even if it does make some people feel uncomfortable.

Paul wrote, "To the weak I become weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some" (1 Cor. 9:22).

So, there you have it. Stay focused and have a great week.

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Have You Found Your Niche?

Finding your niche is important. Have you found yours in ministry?

A few years ago, I had a very positive experience. I had the opportunity to preach at one of the most successful Cowboy Churches in America. It was so interesting. The architecture, the dress, the rodeo arena, the cattle grazing beyond the parking lot, the music, the atmosphere — all of these things went together to create a "Cowboy Church." The church was seven years old. The pastor was a former rodeo performer and racetrack chaplain who felt a burden for those who might not fit the norm of another church.

Montgomery, Texas, is not a very large place, but those who have been loved and fed by the Lone Star Cowboy Church flocked into the two services. I even preached in jeans and cowboy boots. It was a real blessing.

How about you, pastor? Are you living your dream? Have you found your niche? What is your niche? If you could pack it all up today and start fresh, what would the church you served look like? Perhaps, it's right where you are. Hope so!

I know for a fact that a lot of us who have struggled at one place and succeeded at another most likely found our comfort zone in that place.

What does niche mean? "A place of employment or activity for which a person is best suited" (Webster's Collegiate Dictionary). What keeps you from your "niche zone"?

• Fear of failure?
• Finances?
• Denominational structure?
• Comfort in our present place?
• What people would think?
• Uncertainty related to family and long-term career?
• Is it God's will or just a notion?

I talk to so many clergy friends who are "tied up" and unhappy with their situation, but they do not know what to do about it. Caution: You must not make a move without godly counsel, a clear response from the Lord and cooperation from your family.

I value and love my niche — how about you? The scripture says, "I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some" (1 Cor. 7:22). When I hear some of my colleagues say, "I'm like a fish out of water at this place," it saddens me. Have you found your niche?

Remember, we are available to you. Call our toll-free Pastor Care Line at (877) 233-4455, or write us at pastors@family.org. We are also available through our Web site at www.parsonage.org.

Have a great week!

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"Church Candor"

George Barna once wrote, "Bringing about genuine and lasting religious transformation requires leadership that is more aggressive than simply constructing bigger buildings, replacing the overhead projector with a big screen projector system, and introducing a few new programs ... Leaders must spearhead a thoroughly conceived and highly targeted plan that runs a significant level of risk ... Merely tinkering with the existing system is a recipe for irrelevance and abandonment."

Mr. Barna was alluding to the fact that people invest themselves in your congregation (i.e., time, money, human resources). What are their returns?

I am not a church-growth expert, but I am an observer. I have noted several things of late in healthy churches of all sizes:

1. There is unity, but not uniformity.
2. They know their strengths and weaknesses and don't attempt to be something they are not.
3. They are not clones of any other church or program, but have discovered what God wants them to be.
4. The pastor is committed to longevity (5-7 years minimum) and has a shepherd's heart.
5. They are fiscally responsible — unimpressed with material images.
6. They have a vision beyond their property line.
7. They deal with contention in a pre-determined manner — they have a plan.
8. Worship is spirited, yet pleasant and well-presented.
9. Attendees are not simply "pew fillers" — they are cared for and engaged in ministry.
10. They are relevant to the culture and focused on biblical teaching and holy living.

The list I have shared is in no way exhaustive. Our space limits that. I am sometimes burdened by the lack of depth I find in the church world. I'm just being honest because I feel time is short. What say ye?

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Handling Criticism

The news is full of high-profile individuals who are being severely criticized for either something they said, didn't say, did or didn't do. In short, they are in a no-win situation. In reality, only they know the whole story. But unless each one has elephant skin, the critical words must hurt — a lot!!

How do you as a pastor handle conflict and criticism? How do you react when people falsely accuse you of something or misinterpret your motives? We know conflict is inevitable — how we handle it will either make or break us as a servant shepherd. You may not agree with my following thought, but I would hope you would at least consider it.

1. Accept personal responsibility for the situation. It may not be your fault, but we must take the initiative for reconciliation.

2. Make every effort to move toward the person or persons in the conflict. (They may not be receptive.) To play the "blame game" only leads to more torment. Just try the following approach: "I understand this was said. Do you have some time when we can sit down and discuss our differences? Perhaps, we can find common ground."

3. We should confront the issue for the sake of the relationship. In the end, it will make little difference who wins or who is right, but what really matters is how we walk away from one another.

I know most of us are people pleasers and we want folks to accept us and follow our lead, but reality is reality. For those of you who can just look beyond those who are critical of you — fine. But for most of us, if we fail to address the issue, there will always be unrest — even anger.

I received a scathing, critical letter today. The pastor had been carrying his ill will for five years, and just today vented his feelings. Though he hurt me, it must have really been painful for him. I responded in love, but the pain has not as yet subsided. I guess I need to take some elephant-skin pills.

"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger ... along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Eph. 4:32). Amen!

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Shepherding a Church

This week's blog entry is again taken from my newest book, Pause, Recharge, Refresh. This collection of daily devotions is intended to energize a pastor's day-to-day life and ministry. I believe that pastors give of themselves on a daily basis — to their congregations, their communities and their families. Because of their servants' hearts, they often forego their own needs for the needs of others. I hope these devotions will remind pastors daily of how special they are in this world and in the Kingdom of God, and how important it is to take care of themselves. For more information on this resource or any of our other efforts on behalf of pastors and their families, please visit our Web site, The Parsonage.

I began pastoral ministry in 1963. I was 23, fresh out of seminary, and assigned to a church on the wrong side of the street in a Southern California community. I was given practically no chance of pulling my little charge out of the doldrums. But I had learned from my heritage how important it was to love people. So I did.

I visited their homes, paid attention to their children, visited the sick in hospitals and nursing homes, prayed for the downtrodden and lonely. I made myself available and told them publicly that, next to my family, they were the most wonderful people in the world.

It is critical for your congregation and community to know that the shepherd of the flock is truly that — approachable, responsive, gentle, and genuinely filled with compassion. Those characteristics are more significant for the leader of the flock than academic degrees, church growth numbers, or status achieved.

The Pastor Shepherd (John 10:1-28):

• Lays down his life for his sheep.
• Knows his sheep.
• Protects his sheep.
• Feeds his sheep.
• Encounters his sheep.
• Can locate the sheep in his pasture.
• Searches for the lost sheep.
• Promises eternal life to those who believe in the Good Shepherd.

It is a ministry modeled after the Good Shepherd Himself.

"I am the Good Shepherd. The Good Shepherd puts the sheep before himself" (John 10:11, MSG).

I'd love to hear your thoughts and reactions in a comment below. Be blessed and be a blessing!

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Setting the Table

I witnessed a wonderful event a few years ago. I attended a church service where a good friend of mine was preaching for the first time since he had retired exactly one year earlier after decades as their senior pastor.

He was involved in all of the sabbath services. I visited the third service. When he walked out on the platform, the congregation applauded. When he finished his sermon, the people applauded again. He was magnanimous. He thanked the church for their love over the 34 years he served them. He bragged on his replacement and made the point that the church's best years were ahead. He was funny, relaxed and delivered a wonderful message.

I left the church thinking, "I wish all pastors and their congregations could make a transition like that."

How?

• Love your people. Tell them you do. Love begets love.
• Communicate! Be open with those you lead. No surprises.
• Commend others. Brag on the people with whom you serve.
• Be available. Most of you do not need to wear a CEO label. Be a SHEPHERD.
• Live above reproach. Do not give the "nay-sayers" ammunition to use against you.
• Lead spiritually. Be one who lives a life of righteousness and holiness.
• Don't let offenses fester. Deal with contention directly and quickly.
• Act like you're having fun. In other words, don't be downcast. Celebrate God's call in your life.

Others will notice. I encourage you to set the table, so that, when it's time for a transition, it will be a happy and positive thing.

"... so that those who oppose you ... have nothing bad to say about you" (Titus 2:8).

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Accountability is a Choice

Here is my question for you this week: How are you doing with regard to having an accountability arrangement in your life and ministry?

• Do you meet regularly with a colleague or a group of colleagues?
• Do you really engage one another?
• Do you pray for one another?

You need your accountability colleague(s) — your colleague(s) needs you! I realize accountability relationships are fluid, but they are usually very worthwhile. If you are having a tough time finding someone, why not just select a pastor in town "cold turkey" who has an assignment similar to yours, and ask him or her to join you for a coffee break. It is amazing how those times can really be productive. Honest, the members of the clergy that most often find their ministry in jeopardy are those who have no accountability. So — how are you doing?

Have a great week. If you ever need us, we are here for you. Just call our toll-free Pastoral Care Line at 877-233-4455 or email us at pastors@family.org or visit our Web site at http://www.parsonage.org. Remember, "Every Moses needs an Aaron" (Exodus 17:12).

Emerging From Self-Doubt

I have had several notes of late from your colleagues who, for whatever reason, find themselves in a struggle for significance. I have fought that battle myself from time to time.

In Rick Warren's book, The Purpose Driven Life, there is a thread that runs through it that says, once a person finds his or her place in society, there will be eternal impact. In other words, we will make a difference to God's glory. It seems that ministry can at times diminish one's effectiveness ... at least in our own eyes.

I have attempted to analyze — from the notes I receive from you and from my own perspective — why I feel that insignificance sometimes. As a result, I share the following unscientific conclusions:

1. We unfairly compare ourselves to others whose ministry might seem more effective.
2. We are in the midst of a battle with the power base in our organizations who don't accept our dreams.
3. We are fatigued, worn out from stressful ministry, and when we find ourselves in that condition, everything looks dim.
4. We may have forgotten that the church we serve is His church, and our people are His people.
5. It might just be that the source of our encouragement is being found in the praise of people rather than in the Lord through His Word and private worship.
6. There could be conflict in our families that complicates our lives. Unless we resolve those issues, we will always be in the negative.
7. Self pity is a lousy prison, and if we ever think God doesn't care, doesn't know our situation, or may have mistaken our assignment, we will be less than content! Give yourself a few minutes to pout, and then move on!
8. Just make up your mind to bloom where God has planted you. Greet each day with a smile, and end each day with a feeling that you have done your best.

I'm sure I have not exhausted the subject, but you can fill in the blanks. Read Philippians, chapter 4, especially Paul's words from v. 11 and 13, "I have learned to be content ... I can do everything through him who gives me strength."

I'd like to hear your comments. Use the "Comments" link below to let me know what you think. God bless you and your family.

Ministry to Your Men

Several years ago, I made a few remarks regarding the local church's ministry to men in an interview for an article. The article was soon picked up around the country.

In the story, I was quoted as saying, "If they (pastors) would only buy into the economy of a ministry to men, they would find there's a new sense of purpose, exhilaration and meaning about what we do." I believe that with all of my heart.

Statistics have shown that there has been a decline for quite some time of younger male leadership and involvement in church activity. That may not be the case in your congregation, but the facts underscore the truth that, where men are involved in the church and committed to living a consistent Christlike life, the congregation is healthier and families are more stable.

I further believe that the pastor cannot simply pass the responsibility of a relevant men's ministry on to someone else. The pastor may not be required to head the endeavor, but he must be willing to participate. A successful attempt to reach the men of your congregation cannot be limited to activity; it needs to reproduce leadership.

The words of Paul are essential: "And the [instructions] which you have heard from me along with many witnesses, transmit and entrust [as a deposit] to reliable and faithful men who will be competent and qualified to teach others also" (2 Tim. 2:2, AMP).

If you would like more teaching on this subject, I would like to offer you a complimentary CD containing a two-part radio broadcast — "The Essential Role of Men's Ministry" — or a complimentary booklet we have produced called "The Pastor's Role in Establishing an Effective Men's Ministry." To request either or both, just send us an email to pastors@family.org and mention this blog and which of these items you would like. Be sure to include your mailing address, etc.

Please trust me on this one. It will transform your ministry.

Are You Having Fun Yet?

Okay, here is my Monday thought for you: Are you having any fun? Have you taken time for vacation? Do you have family plans for the 4th of July? Have you scheduled little "get-a-ways" (a day, a couple of hours, a date night) to reconnect with your spouse, your family — even your Lord?

Now, I know I'm bugging you — and I am not really practicing all that I preach — but, honest, if you don't schedule these times for "fun," you will miss something very special. So, some suggestions:

• Unless you're taking a road trip or an extended vacation, don't take it all at once — spread it out!
• Make your "day off" count, or add a day of vacation to your "day off." It will seem like a mini-vacation.
• Ask your children, if they are still at home, what they would most enjoy doing on a day with you.
• Just for the summer, plan a regular "take a walk," "eat some ice cream," or "ride a bike" with your spouse night. Then, see what happens when fall comes.
• Do something you have wanted to do, but just haven't taken the time to do. For instance: "go fishing," "work on your car" or "go to a ballgame." I'm going to a game in July. Go Rockies!

Do you get my point? If you don't plan for fun, you may not have any. If you don't put it on your calendar, it will most likely never happen. Do something impromptu for a change. Have a great week — a fun week!!

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"A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance" (Prov. 15:13). "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine" (Prov. 17:22). You know what that means? It means you look forward to joyful times and to laughing out loud. Now please, go have some fun!

Eternal Investments

Today is our nation's celebration of Memorial Day. I can't help but think about the people who have contributed to my life and ministry. Most of them have passed on now, but their memories remain very vivid. How about you? Can you identify those in your life who have enabled you to reach your present position?

Next, consider into whose life are you contributing? Paul wrote "To Titus, my true son of our common faith ... in everything, set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching, show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech" (Titus 1:4, 2:7, 8). In other words, invest in the younger generation as others have invested in you.

Memorial Day provides you the opportunity to discuss with your family the many names upon whose shoulders you stand — who have made an eternal investment in you. Please include in those discussions any of your family's ancesters who have sacrificed as part of this nation's military — which allows us to discuss and remember in a free country. That is, after all, the pure intent of this holiday. Then, live this entire week consciously aware of the eternal investments you are making in the lives of those around you. You will be remembered during God's Memorial Day in heaven.

I would welcome any comments you might have on this blog entry or on Memorial Day itself. Just click on the "Comments" link below.

And, if you need to talk with someone about an issue being faced by you or someone in your family, call our toll-free Pastoral Care Line at (877) 233-4455, or contact us at pastors@family.org, or visit our Web site and submit a prayer request for your family that our Pastoral Ministries team can lift to the Lord next Wednesday. We really care about you!

Stop! Do You Need Rest?

I thought of you this weekend! I know what it can be like to come off a very exciting time of the year like Easter. Hopefully your weekend was blessed with the realization that Christ is still risen. Now, it's on to Mother's Day. Remember, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!".

All of us face times like I'm facing today. Too many events in a short amount of time, people depending on you and, to be honest, not really knowing if you can deliver and satisfy all of those expectations. Sometimes, I don't think I can face another airport — but I do. Just like you, we do the best we can with what we have where we are.

Hopefully, your schedule is manageable this week. If not, please find a quiet place and just look for perspective and do the most important things first. But most of all, spend the right amount of time with your Lord. We all need constant safeguards. Part of that means guarding your time and putting the proper value on everything you do.

Remember, when Jesus and His disciples felt overwhelmed and they were so busy that they didn't even have time to eat. Jesus said to His disciples, who were attempting to meet so many needs, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest" (Mark 6:31).

Even in the midst of ministry, Jesus felt it necessary to stop for awhile. Likewise, you need to stop for awhile. If you haven't done so lately, you had better do so soon.

Who Crucified Jesus?

As you and I anticipate the Easter weekend, we are always looking for a new way to present an old story — namely the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ. I was reading a tract that the American Tract Society published and came across the question: Who crucified Jesus? This was a question many people argued about when Mel Gibson's The Passion of the Christ was released. The answer from Scripture is very simply stated in Isaiah 53:"Smitten by God, and afflicted ... he was wounded for our transgressions. The Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all" (Isaiah 53:4-6). The Bible names God as the One responsible for the earthly death of Christ.

Oh, I know you can state the fact that sin killed Jesus, or the betrayal of Judas, or the jealousy exhibited by the scribes and pharisees, or a spineless Pilate — but, the fact remains, Christ's crucifixion was in God's plan even before the foundation of the world. Yet, it was because God loved us so much that He sacrificed His Son. So here is an Easter sermon commentary on a loving God and the crucifixion.

1. Our condition: "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Rom.3:23).
2. The consequences: "The wages of sin is death" (Rom. 6:23). Sin separates from God forever.
3. God's passion: "He showed His love for us in that even though we were sinners, Christ died for us" (Rom. 5:8).
4. Love demands a response: Fortunately there is hope for all who respond to God's love. "Confess — believe — accept" (Rom. 10:9).

What we have been doing is walking down the familiar Roman's Road to salvation. Have you preached that truth lately? This weekend gives you the joyful opportunity to do so. I pray that our Lord gives you His strength and boldness as you greet your people this Resurrection Sunday.

HAPPY EASTER! He is risen!

Proper Care for Spiritual Leaders

I was recently asked to be a guest columnist for the National Association of Evangelicals in their quarterly publication, NAE Insight, for the Spring 2009 issue. Here is what I wrote:

Focus on the Family's ministry to clergy families began in 1992. I had been the pastor to Dr. and Mrs. Dobson in Southern California. One night we were at dinner with our wives, and Dr. Dobson looked across the table at me and said, "We are receiving a lot of mail from the clergy whose lives are in crisis." And then he said, "I wonder if you and I could work together on their behalf without killing one another?"

You see, Jim Dobson and I are cousins, and as only children we had kind of a sibling rivalry going. Our working together began 17 years ago, and the ministry that was begun then is still vital today with more than 100,000 pastors and Christian leaders on our responsibility list.

When I talk to congregations about their spiritual leaders, and what I believe constitutes proper care for them, I always say:

Pray for them. A Christian leader without an arsenal of prayer support is impotent. I tell them to put their pastor's picture on the refrigerator door. Each time they go there say a prayer.

Let them dream. A pastor without a divinely commissioned dream is a pastor who will soon be going through the motions. Pastors need to see progress, and progress begins with a dream that can become reality. Encourage your leaders to reach beyond their grasp. All meaningful dreams are God's idea for his church.

Treat them with respect. The writer to the Hebrews said, "Respect (obey) them so their work will be a joy not a burden ..." (Heb. 13:17). In other words, respect the fact that the men and women who serve the church have been hand-picked by Almighty God, and they represent his voice and presence in the world.

Honor their families. There was a time when the work ethic of spiritual leaders was established by the leadership of a church or organization. Now we realize that the most important constituency of any leader is their spouse and children. Leaders deserve days off and adequate vacation. They should be fairly compensated and affirmed. Work hours should be reasonable, and expectations should be realistic.

I value my role as a "pastor to pastors." I am grateful to God for my assignment, and say with the Apostle Paul, "Pastor (Christian leader) we ought always to thank God for you" (2 Thess. 1:3).

I would love to hear your reactions to this article. Please click below and leave a comment to let me know how you feel about the proper care of servants like you. Thanks, and God bless you and your family as you serve him.

Are You Safe? Are You Prepared?

My heart was saddened yesterday when I heard the news that Pastor Fred Winters was gunned down and killed while conducting a Sunday morning service. I am sure the community of Maryville, Illinois, is in shock today as they process that tragic event.

When I heard the news, my mind went immediately to a situation 15 months ago in Colorado Springs when a troubled young man opened fire on parishioners attending services at New Life Church. Two young ladies and the gunman were killed in that terrible incident.

The more I thought about those shootings, the more I began to wonder about your safety. Do you have a trained security group in your congregation? I know some of you could not imagine anything like what happened in Maryville happening in your town, but it could.

If you do not have a trained security group active in your church, you should at least have a session or two with your ushers so they will be prepared to handle any type of threat that might occur during worship hours.

I can think of at least three or four times as a pastor that I and others in our congregation were in possible jeopardy. Three times, strange men just walked up to me while I was preaching, and another occurred when a deranged man entered the sanctuary and stood in front of the communion altar. Fortunately, those situations ended peacefully, but we were not at all prepared.

There are groups who can prepare you and your people to handle potential emergencies. However, your best plan would be to have a member of the local police department meet with you and your leadership, or have an Emergency Medical Technician (EMT) or a representative from the local fire department counsel you.

These are crazy days we live in and I am concerned about you. If you have specific advice we can pass along to our colleagues, let me know by submitting a comment to this blog entry.

Take time to pray for the Winters family and the congregation of First Baptist Church in Maryville, Illinois.

Have a safe week.

Have You Done Something Special for Your Pastor Yet?

For the next several days, leading up to the November 4th election, thousands of pastors and their congregations will be going before their God seeking His blessings, direction and mercy as the nation selects its local, state and national leaders. Many feel this year's voting will be the most important in our nation's history. How do you feel? Will you join in our prayer?

If you were asked to vote for president today, who would you select? We would like to know.

Now — let's return to appreciating pastors and their families.

Churchgoers have less than a week left to do something extra special for their ministers in recognition of Clergy Appreciation Month.

Though appreciation for church leaders should be expressed year round, Clergy Appreciation Month gives churchgoers a perfect chance to recognize the contribution their leaders makes in their lives and communities, says H.B. London Jr., vice president of Pastoral Ministries at Focus on the Family.

Clergy Appreciation Month “is not meant just to glamorize the position of a pastor or staff person, but it is to call to the attention of the American public the contribution their spiritual leaders make in our society,” he told Focus on the Family’s CitizenLink in a recent interview, 14 years after first presenting the idea that led to Clergy Appreciation observations nationwide.

“Can you imagine our nation without caring, loving clergy?” he asked.

Today, as London points out, there are many pastors who are under-compensated, and their ability to give full-time to their assignment is often times complicated by financial stress.

According to statistics compiled by Life-Line For Pastors, a publication of Maranatha Life, 80 percent of North American pastors feel unqualified and discouraged in their role as pastors; 70 percent of pastors do not have a close friend, confidant or mentor; 90 percent say the hardest thing about ministry is dealing with uncooperative people; and hundreds of pastors leave the ministry each month due to moral failure, spiritual burnout or contention in their churches.

Focus on the Family’s London, meanwhile, says the greatest struggle remains one of management and balance.

“How does a busy, in-demand pastor give the proper time to his family and marriage and still meet the expectations of those who call him their pastor,” he asked. “Some always struggle with this delicate balance.”

In London’s opinion, there are five needs in a particular that he would identify to be the greatest for pastors. These needs include a united congregation that serves together; freedom to dream; prayer; time spent for leading rather than baby sitting or simply running errands; and personal conversation.

“Every pastor needs to be ‘talked to’ — not talked through or around, but given a chance to express his hopes without being unfairly judged,” London said, regarding the last need.

With these in mind, London hopes churchgoers everywhere will find some way to show appreciation for their pastors, whether it be a written note, a word of thanks, a promise to pray for them, a gift card or a donation.

“Whatever you do, be it a big event or just a casual recognition of your pastor’s commitment to his call and your congregation, do something,” exhorted London. “I promise you it will be a win-win situation. You will be blessed, and your pastor and church staff will feel motivated by your affirmation.”

Clergy Appreciation Month started off as an idea that London had discussed on a radio broadcast in 1991. One year later, Under His Wing Ministries marked the first Pastor’s Appreciation Day after pursuing a similar idea presented by its executive director, Jerry Frear, who lobbied for state declarations from 10 different states — eight of which responded.

In 1994, Focus on the Family began to promote Clergy Appreciation Month in October, designating the second Sunday of the month as Clergy Appreciation Day for churches that preferred to celebrate on a specific day.

On the Web:
A downloadable planning guide for Clergy Appreciation Month at clergyappreciation.org.
Focus on the Family's Pastoral Ministries Web site at parsonage.org.

Taken from The Christian Post (www.christianpost.com)
Copyright © 2008, The Christian Post. Used by permission.

Recognizing Your Spiritual Leader: October is Clergy Appreciation Month

If you read this blog, you most likely have a pastor, priest or rabbi. If you do have a spiritual leader, the month of October gives you a perfect chance to recognize the contribution your leader makes in your life and community. 

Listed below are some often-asked questions of our team in Pastoral Ministries at Focus on the Family. Perhaps they will prove helpful to you as you encourage others to "step up" and help make those clergy who serve you and their families feel extra special. 

The following is used by permission from CitizenLink:

The Rev. H.B. London, vice president of pastoral ministries at Focus on the Family — and cousin to Dr. James Dobson — spoke with CitizenLink about Clergy Appreciation Month and the importance of honoring your pastor.

1.  Why is Clergy Appreciation Month so important?

It is meant to recognize the call of God in the lives of men, women and couples to full-time Christian service. It is not meant just to glamorize the position of a pastor or staff person, but it is to call to the attention of the American public the contribution their spiritual leaders make in our society. Can you imagine our nation without caring, loving clergy? To be called “pastor” is one of the greatest possible designations.

2.  What are some of the challenges and struggles unique to pastors and their families?

In our day and age, the challenges are greater than ever. Those who do attend church are in many ways consumers — they feel entitled. Beyond that, you have so many pastors who are under-compensated, and their ability to give full time to their assignment is ofttimes complicated by financial stress. But the greatest struggle remains one of management and balance. How does a busy, in-demand pastor give the proper time to his family and marriage and still meet the expectations of those who call him their pastor? Some always struggle with this delicate balance.

3. What are some of the greatest needs of pastors?

In my sermons to laymen, I stress several things every pastor needs: 1) They need congregations who are united and who serve together in love. 2) They need freedom to dream. A pastor without a dream is a pastor who is treading water, or settling for the ordinary. 3) They need prayer. I suggest every member of every church put a picture of their pastor and church staff on the refrigerator door. When they open that door, they should say a prayer for their pastor. 4) They need to use their gifts and graces. A pastor should be a leader not a baby sitter or an errand boy. 5) Every pastor needs to be “talked to” — not talked through or around, but given a chance to express his hopes without being unfairly judged.

4. What are some ways people can show appreciation for their pastors?

That’s an easy one. Visit clergyappreciation.org. This Web site will provide you with anything you will ever need to know about facilitating a proper and meaningful Clergy Appreciation Month event, including a downloadable planning guide.

One thing every church can do is write a note of appreciation and support to their pastor and staff team. Thank them for their service, promise your prayers, and if you want to include a little something with that note like a gift card or a monetary amount, that would be nice, as well. And, whatever you do, please do not forget your clergy spouses and their families.

5. Tell me how pastors have been encouraged by their congregants during Clergy Appreciation Month.

I remember receiving a letter one time from a pastor who had gone to church on a Sunday morning in October with a resignation letter in his pocket. As he stood to deliver that message, one of the church leaders stepped up to the podium and asked the pastor to be seated. The next several minutes were filled with person after person coming to the microphone and extolling the positive nature of that pastor’s service to them and the community. The pastor and his family were given gifts, prayed over and loved. The pastor said he was so taken by all of this that he tore up his resignation letter, said thanks and dismissed the congregation. They had left him speechless. I wish that could happen in every church.

So whatever you do, be it a big event or just a casual recognition of your pastor’s commitment to his call and your congregation, do something! I promise you it will be a win-win situation. You will be blessed, and your pastor and church staff will feel motivated by your affirmation.

Remember the words of Paul from I Thessalonians 5:12-13: “Now we ask you brothers, to respect those who work hard among you, who are over you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other.”

And remember to let us know what impact your celebration made. You can do so very easily by visiting our Web site at www.parsonage.org/forms/testimony.cfm. Thanks.

FOR MORE INFORMATION
Visit Focus on the Family's Pastoral Ministries Web site.

What do you plan to do for your clergy families? We would like to know.  Do you have a pastor, priest or rabbi?

A Perspective on Whining

This past week, former Texas senator, Phil Gramm, made a statement that Americans are 'whiners'. He said that "we have sort of become a nation of whiners. You just hear this constant whining". He went on to say that we are in a 'mental recession'. He was making the point that often we look for someone to blame rather than address the real problems.

I know what he had to say was not politically correct, but the truth is we ARE 'whiners'! We complain about everything. When you put it into perspective do we really have that much to complain about?

Let's see ... last week in Canada, we paid more than $5 for a gallon of gasoline. Today, I filled my tank in Colorado Springs for $3.89. It's hot here today, but two weeks ago, I was in Palm Springs when it hit 120 degrees.  Last night, when I arrived home from the airport, I walked into a house that has air conditioning and it was not too bad. Today, I ate lunch at a nice restaurant. I'm not hungry. When I drove to the office this morning, I didn't worry about a roadside bomb. My automobile is not armor plated, and I didn't wear a battle helmet. Perspective! People in Norway pay $11 a gallon for fuel. Perspective!

Our problem many times is that we just do not want to be bothered by any inconvenience. That is why most people do not want to think about '9-11'. It is painful.

When I traveled the 9th Ward in New Orleans last year, I saw devastation like I had not seen before. It made my little problems seem very insignificant. Perspective!

I agree with the senator. We have a way of making things a lot worse than they really are. Perspective! In spite of our economic times, 95% of our country can work if they want to.

The other day, a storm interrupted our electricity. We had to re-set several clocks. I was irritated. How silly. All I had to do was look at my wrist watch. How many clocks does one need? Perspective!

To me, the opposite of a 'whiner' is a 'thanker' — one who follows the admonition of the Apostle Paul who said "Thank God no matter what happens" (2 Thess).

Come to think of it, I whined today when I was in group 6 to board my plane in Dallas.  How stupid. I sat in row 9, arrived the same time as those in first class did, and I didn't have to drive 12 hours to complete my journey.  Perspective!!

Now, my friend, what are you complaining about today? Stop and think about it and then, for most of us, ... put it in perspective!

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Dealing With a Crisis

In light of the fact that over 4,000 soldiers have lost their lives in both Afghanistan and Iraq, and events such as the devastating tragedy that happened just Wednesday of this week, when Steven Curtis Chapman's family lost their little girl to an accident at their home, ... crisis is common.  Loss is frequent.

The telephone rings and the call is from a person in an emergency. While you're sitting at your desk, a knock at the door comes from someone who has reached the end of her rope. You're playing golf and a colleague shares a problem that could destroy his life.

It is one thing to deal with an unexpected crisis in another person's life, but it's quite different when you have to face an extreme circumstance in your own life. The Lord told us those times would come when He said, "In this world you will have trouble" (John 16:33). For some reason, we never seem ready for the inevitable. How do you handle a crisis? Let me suggest the following.

First, remember God is not surprised. He knows your name. He knows where you live. He knows exactly what is happening.

Second, you should never go through a crisis or the valley of sorrow alone. Talk to someone; please do not shut others out. Call Focus on the Family's Pastoral Care Line toll free at 877-233-4455 and we will listen.

Third, if you can say or do something to alter the situation, then do it. Don't let a problem become bigger than it should be. If there is nothing you can do, then surrender it to God. "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." (I Peter 5:7)

Fourth, do not despair. "Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged." (Joshua 1:9) So often the things that trouble us are not as threatening as they appear to be.

Finally, trust those people who can help. Be open and honest wiht your physician or counselor, family members and colleagues. Let them help mend your brokenness. If the crisis is a product of sin, then confess it. "Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed" (James 5:16) Accept God's forgiveness and move forward.

Sure, it's easy for me to suggest a simplistic formula for dealing with a crisis, but we all have to begin somewhere.

We hope you have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend.  Remember those who have gone before, consider the loss of our military and honor them.  Our podcast this Monday is entitled "In Remembrance" ... why not give it a listen?  You can access it at www.podcast.hblondon.org

And Happy Memorial Day!

The National Day of Prayer and Nascar

Although we published this in our Shepherd's Covenant this past Monday we felt it important enough to send a reminder through our blog.  We hope you are spending time tomorrow commemorating the National Day of Prayer.

Do you follow NASCAR? I do — sort of. I'm a Jeff Gordon fan. Not sure why, but it is interesting to follow the progress of those scientifically designed race cars making left turns while traveling at speeds in excess of 200 miles per hour.

Sunday was a big day for the NASCAR fans who support the National Day of Prayer Task Force. Driver Joe Nemechek, and the #78 car, won the pole (best qualifying time) and eventually finished in 25th place at the Talladega Super Speedway. It was exciting because the one-car team, owned by the Furniture Row folks, was wrapped in the National Day of Prayer logo and colors.

Dr. Dobson held the chapel service before the race. And I noticed the announcers made a big deal about the #78 car and the fact that the National Day of Prayer will be held tomorrow, May 1st. It was a real serendipity.

Hopefully, you have made plans to commemorate NDP. Your participation does not have to be on a huge scale, but to be able to say "our church participated with tens of thousands of other groups" will be an encouragement to everyone. God will be glorified.

Here at Focus on the Family, we have organized a Prayer Marathon for our employees.

If you need more information, you can click into the NDP Web site at www.ndptf.org. Prayer guides are downloadable.

Sunday's NASCAR race was really exciting — so many lead changes. A lot like your life.

"How much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him" (Matt. 7:11).

Hope your week finishes well, and don’t forget to check out this week’s podcast on “The Power of Prayer and Fasting.”

Stress Awareness Month

I understand we in Christian leadership experience at least 2 "stress points" each month, not to mention the fact we live a stressful existence.  So if you're stressed, take note of the points below. If you know someone who's stressed get them started on the suggestions.

The Health Resource Network, a non-profit health education organization, has designated April as Stress Awareness Month for the 16th consecutive year.

Community Chaplains of America, which provides care for individuals during difficult and stressful situations, have offered 10 simple suggestions on how to provide care and essentially reduce stress, according to christianpost.com.

• Provide a listening ear. Often, those who are going through stressful times simply need someone to talk to. Make an extra phone call or meet a friend for coffee and offer the opportunity for them to talk.
• Send an encouraging note. Words are powerful. In the age of emails and text messages, handwritten notes show that you took time and effort to show you care.
• Say "thank you." Offer your gratitude for people. Thank a coworker for his or her hard work or a waiter for serving you dinner. Everyone wants to feel appreciated.
• Laugh with someone. A good hearty laugh can relax you both and mentally lighten your load. Tell a joke or rent a funny movie with a friend.
• Perform a random act of kindness. Surprise someone with the unexpected. It can be as simple as paying for a friend's coffee or offering to watch the kids so a mom or dad can have that extra time to relax.
• Help someone organize. When the places and things around us are in order, we feel a little more put together. Take time to help a friend clean out a closet or scrub the bathtub.
• Take a walk. Exercise releases endorphins and makes us feel better all around. Walk around the mall with a coworker on your lunch break or meet a friend at a park after work and enjoy the fresh air.
• Share a smile. This contagious act can easily brighten someone's day. Smile to a passing stranger; it may make a big difference in his or her day.
• Get away. Get away from the everyday circumstances that may be causing stress. Plan a weekend getaway or a day trip with a friend.
• Pray. Say a quick prayer for your friend and put his or her stress in the hands of the Ultimate Provider and Healer.

Now don't you feel better? Could you please give me some feed back on something .. please? 

What is your #1 stress related challenge in your ministerial profession? Let me know. I think we could help one another.

So — on we go!  HB London

Daring to Dream Along With Martin Luther King

Am I overreacting when I say our nation is still racist?  Do you live in a racist area of the USA? If so, why is it?  If not, what has made the difference?  Please note the following article I wrote for our last Shepherd's Covenant Encourager and give us your response by posting a comment back. 

I think back several decades to my boyhood days in Little Rock, Arkansas. I was a white boy in a racist society, but sheltered from all of that because I lived in an all-white world. As a youth, I'm not sure I ever really knew of a black/white segregation. Both races just kind of stayed to themselves. I played against, but never with, African-Americans. Now I work side-by-side every day with African-American colleagues who are also close friends.

Last Friday, I asked them if they thought Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was the greatest African-American to come along in their lifetime. They both said yes. Why? Because Martin Luther King dared to face injustice peacefully, and he gave his life for a cause that lives on to this day: racial equality.

As I travel, I run across schools and highways named after Dr. King, but I'm not convinced that my "pastor" colleagues, Alex and Ralph, would feel comfortable in all churches — just as I might not. Why? Racism still exists.

I remember Dr. King's speeches — "I Have a Dream" and "I've Been to the Mountaintop," which was preached the night before he died. I marveled at his oratory and celebrated his courage.

True integration is not an event or an occurrence. It does not happen when you hug a brother of another race at a Promise Keepers event or pray together at a civil rights celebration. To be integrated is to be sensitive to the needs of others, and a seeker of greater understanding for a brother's situation.

We have very few African-American clergy at our pastoral ministries events; therefore, we have been intentional in going to them. We have a small percentage of African-Americans who work at Focus on the Family — even though we have attempted to recruit those of every race. Bottom line: we have a long way to go — all races do.

I pray that we all might dream along with Dr. King and that some day, arm in arm, we might all stand on the mountaintop with our Lord Jesus knowing that we have fought the "good fight" for racial unity and have received His well-done.

We just can't wait for the next colleague to do something. We must take the initiative. Who will be the next Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.? And is it necessary that they also be African-American? Equality is every race's opportunity.

Americans Not Getting Enough Sleep

(Or, Why Is Everyone Falling Asleep During My Sermon?)

Hi Pastor Friend ... I run across a lot of weary clergy in my travels.  So many of them do not get enough sleep.  (See the report below).  How much do you get on an average? 

Two reports released last month by the Center for Disease Control show that Americans are sleeping less than they did 20 years ago, and that about 50 to 70 million people nationwide suffer from chronic sleep loss and sleep disorders. The research, which was done in 2006 and 2007, also revealed that:

• About 10 percent of adults report not getting enough rest or sleep in any of the previous 30 days.
• Only 29.6 percent of adults said they did get enough rest or sleep every day in the past month.
• About 13 percent of adults aged 18-34 reported insufficient sleep every day in the past month compared to only seven percent of adults 55 and older.

The results of another survey released this week by the National Sleep Foundation found that the average adult gets six hours and 40 minutes of sleep each night and that they estimated they need about seven and a half hours. According to the Foundation, adults need 7-9 hours sleep each night, teens need eight and a half to nine and a half hours, and children, aged 5-12, need 9-11 hours. Also, about one-third of those surveyed said they had fallen asleep or become very sleepy at work in the last month. The average worker gets up at 5:35 a.m., leaves for work at 7:50 a.m., and goes to bed at 10:53 p.m.

The CDC gives the following suggestions for those who are sleep deprived:

1. Stick to a regular sleeping schedule.
2. Sleep in a dark, well ventilated room at a comfortable temperature.
3. Avoid stimulating activities within two hours of bedtime.
4. Avoid caffeine, nicotine, and alcohol in the evening.
5. Avoid going to bed on a full or empty stomach.
6. See a doctor if you are concerned about chronic sleep problems.

The National Sleep Foundation, which promotes March 3-9 as National Sleep Awareness Week in conjunction with Daylight Saving Time, believes that many factors are contributing to the changing sleep patterns in America. Such concerns as longer work hours, pressure to increase productivity, changing schedules, and overuse of caffeine and other stimulants all play a part in the difficulty Americans are having getting enough sleep.

For more details about the research go to www.cdc.gov/sleep and www.sleepfoundation.org.

Early Easter - Lenten Preparation

Perhaps you already know about all of this, but maybe you were so busy with Lenten activity that the following information has escaped you.

DID YOU KNOW? This year is the earliest Easter any of us will ever see the rest of our lives. AND only those 95 years and older in your congregation have seen it this early. AND the next time Easter will be as early as March 23 will be 2228. AND the last time it was this early was 1913. AND the earliest date Easter can fall is March 22. AND the latest date is April 25. (See Snopes.com — February 2008.) So Easter this year is ... March 23.

What's the point? You mean other than the fact that the earliest possible date for Easter is March 22. AND no one alive today will ever see it that early. AND, when you're planning your Easter Sunrise Service, you need to take the early date into consideration. AND the same with Easter lilies. AND the same with promoting Easter effectively so that it does not just "slip up" on you.

One more thing to dazzle you on this Tuesday — Easter is always the first Sunday after the first full moon after the Spring Equinox, which is March 20. Next year — 2009 — Easter will be April 12.

Seriously, the Lenten Season, for those of us who serve the church, should be much more than planning for a big crowd and festive weekend. It should also be, for you, a time of preparation — your heart, your attitude, your message and your relationship with the Risen Christ.

"For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I came to you in weakness and fear, and with much trembling. My message and preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the spirit's power, so that your faith might not rest on men's wisdom, but on God's power" (1 Cor. 2:2-5).                          —The Apostle Paul

I pray that your Easter activities will be underscored by the Spirit's power. May God richly bless you this week.  Thank you for your committment to read the blog and please consider commenting back.  We enjoy your input, as do the other readers! 

So, Will You Be Voting?

Wow! Dr. James Dobson has really created a "fire storm" with his comments related to Super Tuesday. As an individual — NOT as the founder and chairman of Focus on the Family — he stated, in so many words, that, if Senator McCain is the nominee of the Republican Party, he would not be able to vote for him. His words on the Glenn Beck program were, "I regret what happened last night. I'm between a rock and a hard place."

Dr. Dobson had said on Tuesday, detailing his personal opposition to McCain, "If McCain is the nominee, I will sit this one out," according to citizenlink.org. He has received a lot of criticism from friends and foes alike.

I have been asked by several people, "Do you mean that under no circumstance could Dr. Dobson vote for Sen. McCain?" I still think that remains to be seen.

Tony Perkins of the Family Research Council wrote on Feb. 6 regarding values voters, "If we reach September and the candidates you endorsed are not the final nominees, it will not mean the values movement has failed. I guarantee you that the frontrunner would have moved closer to our issues." Gary Bauer's Campaign for Working Families organization reported responses to his survey running 8-1 in favor of the Republicans "closing ranks" if need be.

As I write this note to you, I have also learned that Gov. Romney has dropped out of the race for the Republican presidential nomination. I also understand that he may have spent between 35 and 50 million dollars of his own money on his campaign. To me, there is something immoral about that — but it was his money.

Tom Minnery, our Vice President of Public Policy, is quoted as saying, "Dr. Dobson's decision is a position of a man who isn't swayed by political winds. He is a man of deep principle, deep philosophy." I for one know Dr. Dobson is a godly man with deep moral convictions.

We have a long way to go before a president is selected in November. So much can and will change. One thing for sure — we need to pray for our country and the democracy that allows us to cast our vote in the privacy of a voting booth.

So, will you be voting? "Righteousness exalts a nation" (Prov. 14:34).

*** Late breaking news:  Dr. James Dobson issued the following statement last night, speaking as a private citizen.

I am endorsing Gov. Mike Huckabee for President of the United States today. My decision comes in the wake of my statement on Super Tuesday that I could not vote for Sen. John McCain, even if he goes on to win the Republican nomination. His record on the institution of the family and other conservative issues makes his candidacy a matter of conscience and concern for me.

That left two pro-family candidates whom I could support, but I was reluctant to choose between them. However, the decision by Gov. Mitt Romney to put his campaign "on hold" changes the political landscape. The remaining candidate for whom I could vote is Gov. Huckabee. His unwavering positions on the social issues, notably the institution of marriage, the importance of faith and the sanctity of human life, resonate deeply with me and with many others. That is why I will support Gov. Huckabee through the remaining primaries, and will vote for him in the general election if he should get the nomination. Obviously, the governor faces an uphill struggle, given the delegates already committed to Sen. McCain. Nevertheless, I believe he is our best remaining choice for President of the United States.

Be blessed and be a blessing. —HBL

P.S. Our hearts go out to the families and churches that were devastated by the multitude of tornadoes that raged through six southern states earlier this week. In an attempt to reach out to pastors and their congregations, we would like to know if your church or another that you are aware of was damaged or destroyed. Please email us your contact information or theirs at pastors@family.org so that we may contact them. Thank you.

So - What Happened In New Hampshire?

I was amazed at the results of yesterday's presidential primary in New Hampshire. Were you? To be honest, I was surprised and a bit disappointed.

The polls had it pretty much right for the Republicans, but they missed it badly on the Democrats. In fact, I think the pundit that came closest to being right was Chris Wallace.

What do you think happened? Do you think Senator Clinton's near meltdown the day before the vote had anything to do with it, or because she carried a huge portion of the female vote?

Needless to say, she is now the comeback kid. In fact, I understand she more than equaled her husband's "comeback" of nearly 16 years ago.

Now the race for the White House seems wide open. Especially if Romney takes Michigan and Huckabee takes South Carolina — and Obama and Clinton swap states in Michigan and South Carolina. 

If you had to guess who each party's nominee will be, who would you say? I know politics are unpredicatable, but what would be your "guess"? Please let me know. 

A few weeks ago in response to our Pastor's Weekly Briefing column hundreds of you responded to our ethics question and your input was really helpful to us.

So — thanks for your time — and don't forget to encourage your people to register to vote and then vote.

HBL

World Class

Here at Focus on the Family, we have a directive to do what we do for you, the clergy and for all of our constituents, in a world class manner. What that means to us is "give it your very best." In other words, if it is worth doing — do it right.

With Thanksgiving behind us, I found myself reflecting back to last year's opportunity to attend the Notre Dame/ Southern California football game. I arrived early at the stadium to soak in all the drama and pageantry that surrounded such an event. It was great. The game was exciting, but the thing that impressed me so much was the attention everyone gave to detail. The bands were topnotch, the teams looked immaculate before the game, the coaches were in their respective places, the timing was perfect, the stadium was packed, the well-stocked concession stands were open and the ushers were friendly and helpful. The "rowdy" were not allowed to detract from the game. People around you in the stands were friendly and did a lot of high-fiving. They booed and cheered in all the right places. When the game was over, people by the thousands stayed around for the "after game" pep-rally band concert. The tickets were expensive, but all who attended would long remember their night in the Coliseum. I know I will.

What's my point? You are now in the Advent Season. There will be many and varied activities under your "watch." You will probably have more people attending your services than at any other time of the year. Be ready for them: Be prepared, be friendly, be respectful and be world-class — in other words, do what you do the very best way that you can. Be God honoring in every respect, and as Paul wrote to the church in Colossi: "And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him" (Col. 3:17).

You are world class — so do what you do in a world-class manner. We are proud of you.

And now it is on to Christmas.

Check Your Gauges

I give a speech to clergy couples called "Check Your Gauges." It pertains to 1 Timothy 4, in which the apostle Paul told Timothy to watch his life (verse 16).  One of the gauges I suggest that pastors stop to check is the physical gauge.  Have you checked yours lately?

When the Lord called you into the ministry as co-laborers with Him, He made an investment in you.  Like parents sending their children off to college, He launched you into a world that would take its toll not only emotionally and spiritually, but physically as well. 

I remember a physician saying that all clergy live high-risk lives.  He helped me to see how pastors live in a world of the urgent, often fail to eat right and rarely get enough rest or exercise — but I knew that.

Then he told me to tell the pastors with whom I meet to be mindful of several things.  First, pastors need to watch their weight.  They shouldn't eat until they're full, he said, and they should never eat another french fry.  (Fat chance, I thought.)  Second, he suggested every pastor should know his cholesterol balance and blood pressure.  Third, every male pastor needs an annual prostate screening exam after his 40th birthday.

He said if pastors can keep these three levels in check, they most likely will have a healthy, productive life and ministry.  Good advice.  I thanked him for his interest in pastors and said I'd do my best to pass along his cautions as I meet with and encourage other clergy.

One more piece of advice: Take a day off — regularly.  Go for walks with your spouse.  Sleep seven or eight hours each night, listen to good music and do not let the sun go down on your anger.  Why?  Because you usually begin a new day the way you ended the last.  End of my sermon.

So, to my dear clergy friend, whom I love in the truth, "I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well" (3 John2)

Don't forget to check your gauges.  And feel free to comment on this or any other post we write.  We enjoy hearing from you.  Were you aware we have a weekly podcast you can access at http://podcast.hblondon.org/?  I just shared this past Monday, on the Seasons of My Life.  Feel free to listen in. 

In Pursuit Of "Lost" Passion

I met with a pastor this week who was suffering from passion fatigue. He was tired — having family problems, and sick of dealing with negative thinking and acting people. I felt for him, because I have been there.  Little things become really big things, and then all of a sudden you lose perspective. 

Here is what I suggest ...

1. Get some rest.  Take time off no matter what.
2. Laugh with someone. When you laugh you tend to forget the negative.
3. Stop taking yourself so seriously. If you were out of the picture (not including your family), would life go on? Would they have church this weekend? Would other critical needs be met by someone else? They most likely would.
4. Examine your motivation. Why do you do what you do? Is ministry a call to glorify God, or to be personally pleasing?  I think you know.
5. Why do you feel the way you do?  Have you lost at something, been disappointed, been rejected, failed in your effort to rescue someone?
6. What is your passion? Do you dream big dreams or have you settled for the ordinary? I deal with lots of folks who have stopped expecting the unusual.
7. Do you enjoy quality time with your best friend? No — not your spouse or your colleague but "the friend that sticks closer than a brother" — Jesus.  Do you?  Talk with Him!
8. Are there un-resolved conflicts at home? I promise you ministry suffers when the lights at home are fluttering.
9. What was the last good book you read? Reading encouraging, challenging things will rub off on you.
10. How's your health? Walking will sweep away anxiety. Go for a 30-minute stroll — do it now! And if you need to see a doctor — do it!

Passion for your mission is most important.  Lose it and your call turns into a job — and you don't want that.

Until next time — Be blessed!

Eternal Investments

A few days ago I shared with you about my sister-in-law's passing (A Passion For Lost People) and our need to be concerned about the eternal security of those in our circle of influence.  Today, I'd like to add to that thought.

When I was a young pastor, I was invited to spend a week at a missions conference at The Peoples Church in Toronto.  It was a life-changing experience. 

The pastor paid for an airplane ticket, hotel room and rental car, providing me with an opportunity to see missions work in action.  Missionary after missionary told his story, speaking of the amazing grace of the Lord to transform others from death to life.  The conference changed my understanding of the Great Commission and deepened my desire to see my church in Oregon get involved in tangible outreach.

That was 1975.  As an unseasoned pastor, I challenged my congregation to raise $25,000 to build a church for others.  They responded, and we helped establish a church in Guatemala near the Yucata Peninsula.  Two years later when I went back for the dedication service, hundreds of people gathered for worship, bringing glory to God. 

Since that time, the two churches I pastored have invested millions of dollars and hundreds of thousands of man-hours into reaching people around the world with the love of Jesus Christ.

I tell you about my experiences in order to challenge you.  If you have not taken the risk to reach beyond your church walls into a world that desperately needs God's help, you have missed a glorious opportunity to be blessed and to see others find hope in Christ.

I would not have the passion for lost people today if I didn't have those experiences in Toronto and Guatemala.  If you don't have that passion, find ways to get involved in missions ministry and experience what God is doing internationally.  If you already have this passion, share it with your congregation and your family.  Your passion will be contagious.

"The Lord's hand was with them, and a great number of people believed and turned to the Lord" (Acts 11:21)

Who Asks You The Big Questions?

As I come in touch with hundreds of ministry couples each year, I am amazed how few have someone to ask them "the big questions". 

Most couples have no one to hold them accountable. But if they are accountable only to themselves, or even only to their spouse, they live in a world of jeopardy. 

Each of us is just one decision away from failure, and none of us is immune to temptations and weaknesses. I am no paragon of virtue, so I built several habits into my life as a pastor that helped me stay accountable:

• I met every Tuesday morning with a group of men who cared for me. We held each other accoutable as a fellowship of Christian brothers who cared enough about each other to ask the big questions.
• During my three decades as a pastor, in each ministry I found a man who was willing to enter into a covenant with me. Like Johnathan and David, this friend "made a covenant ... because he loved [me] as himself" (1 Samuel 18:3) We promised each other to meet once a week, pray for one another by name as often as we did pray and ask each other the big questions.
• The third point of accountability was Beverley, my wife. She asked me the big questions, but she also picked up little weaknesses or concerns along the way that were potentially dangerous to us and my ministry if not addressed.

What are these big questions I keep talking about? They may take several forms, but one of the best summaries I know is the list Chuck Swindoll used when he served in Southern California. He and the other male staff members challenged each other with these questions periodically (quoted by Chuck Colson in The Body, Word, 1992):

1. Have you been with a woman anywhere this past week that might be seen as compromising?
2. Have any of your financial dealings lacked integrity?
3. Have you exposed yourself to any sexually explicit material?
4. Have you spent adequate time in Bible study and prayer?
5. Have you given priority time to your family?
6. Have you fulfilled the mandate of your calling?
7. Have you just lied to me?

A Passion for Lost People

My sister-in-law died this past week. She was standing in the kitchen all alone, suffered a massive heart attack and, in an instant, she was gone. She had had some physical problems, but her condition was improving. Now she is in eternity.

The sadness we feel is the loss, but more than that, we do not know for sure where she will spend eternity. She didn’t like to talk about spiritual things, but she was raised in a Christian home. We are praying that the grace and mercy of our Lord will be sufficient for her — that, in a moment of genuine repentance, she accepted Jesus into her heart.

In a day when “easy believism” is rampant and a “feel good theology” seems to be the direction so many pastors are taking, when and where do we preach for a decision?

There are times when I am haunted by the vast numbers of unbelievers in our world — in my little world. I hear the words from John 3:18: “Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.” Jesus!

When was the last time you spent time with an individual and actually shared the Gospel with them, and then led them in the sinner’s prayer? Paul said, “I make myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible” (1 Cor. 9:19). I think it comes down to one thing: a passion for the lost and an urgency to see them saved and secure.

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Be blessed and be a blessing.

Can You Waste a Vote?

This past week, Dr. James Dobson, the chairman of the board at Focus on the Family, wrote an op-ed piece for the New York Times that stated, “Speaking personally, and not for the organization I represent, I firmly believe that the selection of a president should begin with a recommitment to traditional moral values and beliefs. Those include the sanctity of human life, the institution of marriage, and other invaluable pro-family principles. Only after that determination is made can the acceptability of a nominee be assessed.”

The New York Times/CBS News poll shows white, evangelical Republicans agree with Dr. James Dobson. Nearly 60% of those who plan to vote in the primaries said they could not support a candidate they do not agree with on issues such as abortion and same-sex marriage.

I wonder what the other 40% really believe? I wonder what you believe? Will you, like Dr. Dobson, only vote for a candidate that shares your basic values? If you can’t find a candidate who does satisfy you, will you just not vote? Would you favor a third party? Is it a “big deal” to you?

In a recent survey we did with SermonCentral, it reflected that only 17.3% of the pastors who responded were extremely interested in community, culture and political issues. 36.2% of those who participated in the survey said they were interested.

I am just wondering what those figures indicate. Will you be active in the presidential campaign? Will you address specific issues from the pulpit? (You can, you know.) Will you stick your neck out even though your political leanings might not be popular with the people you serve?

Do you feel your people are really engaged in the political scene? Are they well informed? Do you have a committee in your church that feels the responsibility to equip and inform your church family? It’s going to be interesting. The first primary is just 100 days away. I know ... a lot of questions to be answered.

Stay faithful.

Up Front and Down Home

"What would it hurt if every now and again a minister sat with his family on a Sunday morning?"

Nearly every Sunday for more than three decades, I went to church with my wife and two sons.  But I usually didn't worship with them — not really. You see, I was the senior pastor. 

When my older son, Brad, was a child, one day he asked me, "Dad, how come you never sit with us in church like all the other dads do?"

My answer seems hollow now: "Because I'm the pastor and I have to lead the worship service."

I'm sure it was okay to him, but as I reflect on my years of ministry, I see that I missed sharing some meaningful times of worship with my family. How about you?

Oh, I know what you might say: "Come on, H.B., we're up-front people. Our job is to lead, to make it happen."

Is it? Or, perhaps, we allow expectations — "the system" — to take us away from the privilege of worshiping with those we love. I hope not. Would it hurt if every now and again you sat with your family on a Sunday morning? It would be wonderful for your family and would send a powerful signal to those in your congregation who look to you for leadership. 

Leading or just "being in charge" can be a far cry from actual worship. I remember often being in my appointed place on the platform, watching ushers talk as visitors searched for a place to sit. And then there were those empty pews that were ordinarily filled with happy faces. Where were the Joneses today? I'd wonder. Is someone sick? Have they goneto another church? Or, as I looked over the bulletin, I'd see that a certain person was going to sing. He had never hit the high note in his life. Why should I expect him to hit it that day?

Do you get the picture? That wasn't worship! I was consumed with what was happening around me rather than with what God was doing in me. So, I started occasionally to sit in the front row with my back to the congregation. Then I could concentrate on worship. When it was time to deliver the sermon, I did so with a clear mind — because I had not been distracted, but had truly participated in worship. And, just as important, I had worshiped with my family.

Please don't think I've lost my senses, but I encourage you to just sit with your family some weekend. Become one of those who is lost in the wonder of genuine worship. While you're at it, take a look at the family beside you. What's that smile you see? It's only a happy bunch of people enjoying the company of one they love very much — you!

"Enter His gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise" (Ps. 100:4) and, on an occasional Sunday, do it with your family.